Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Asus GL551 Touchpad Disabling

Using an ASUS laptop at work and the the touchpad was giving me accidental mouse movement problems.  I installed the latest Gesture application and was able to disable the touchpad when a mouse was active.  

Extract to a temp directory and then click on setup.exe to install

http://ccm.net/faq/45201-asus-touchpad-gestures-not-working-after-the-windows-10-upgrade

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Friday, July 8, 2016

Monday, April 18, 2016

Bible Trivia

Bible Trivia used over the past couple of years .. 

4/30/2016
Who led the Israelites into Caanan ?
A. Moses
B. Caleb
C. Elijah
D. Joshua.  <<< Deut 31:23

4/23/2016
Timothy's father was a:
A. Greek. << Acts 16:1
B. Jew
C. Roman
D. Syrian

4/16/2016
What type of instrument did David play to soothe Saul?
A. Harp. <<< 1sam 16:23
B. Horn
C. Timbres
D. Trumpet

4/9/2016
Who discovered the plot to kill Esther's King?
A. Esther
B. Mordecai <<<< Esther 6:2
C. Human
D. Hathach


4/2/2016
3.) What was Luke's profession?
A. Physician << col 4:14
Lawyer
Tax Collector
Tentmaker

3/26/2016
Who said: "Lord Jesus, receive my spirit"
A. Paul
B. John the Baptist
C. Barnabas
D. Stephen <<< Acts 7:59


3/19/2016
How long did Esther spend preparing to meet the king?
A. 3 months
B. 6
C. 12. <<< Esther 2:12
D. 18

3/12/2016
How many books of the Bible did Timothy write?
A. Zero


3/5/2016
Who Said: "What is truth?"
Annas
Pilate <<<< Jn 18
Jesus
Peter


2/27/2016
Who said "Am I my brothers keeper"?
A. Jacob
B. Joseph
C. Cain <<< gen 4:9
D. Seth

2/20/2016
Which book is named after a queen?
A. Esther

2/6/2015
Are dogs and cats mentioned in the Bible?
A. Cats only
B. Dogs only
C. Both Dogs and Cats
D. Neither Dogs or Cats


1/30/2016
How much was the king offered to exterminate the Jews?
A. 30 pieces
B. 100 talents
C 10000 talents <<< Esther
D. 500 choice bulls

1/23/2016
Who sold his birth right for a bowl of stew?
A. Jacob
B. Esau <<< gen 25
C. Judah
D. Ishmael

1/16/2016
How much is 10,000 talents worth?
A. $10,000
B. $100,000
C. $2 million
D. $2 billion <<<< Matt 18

1/3/2016
It took Noah how- many years to build the ark?
A. 100
B. 120 yrs
C. 75 yrs <<<<< gen 6-7
D. 25 yrs

1/10/202015
Which Psalm is written as a trilogue?
A. 4
B. 3
C. 2. <<<< ps 2. Dialog of three persons
D. 1

12/19/2015
Definition of swaddling clothes:
A. Type a sheep blanket
B. Narrow strips of cloth <<<<
C. Wool blanket
D. Covering made of reeds

12/11/2015
How big was the group that Jesus sent out to every town two by two?
A. 3
B. 12
C. 72 <<<< Luke 10
D. 144


12/4/2015
Paul was blind for three days in what city?
A. Tarsus
B. Jerusalem
C. Rome
D. Damascus <<<< acts 9


11/28/2015
What kind of work did Zacchaeus do?
A. Tax collector   Luke 19

11/21/2015
Who was in prison with Paul when an earthquake struck?
A. Silas  Acts 16:25

11/14/2015
A tithe is what percentage ?
A. 1 %
B. 10%
C. 25 %
D. 50 %


10/31/2015
God told Joshua to walk 13 times around what city?
A. Jericho

11/7/2015
Joshua crossed what river to enter the promised land ?
A. Jordan

10/24/2015
Which king prayed and had 15 years added to his life?
A. Hezekiah

10/17/2015
God gave what sign to indicate no more floods?
A. Rainbow

10/3/2015
Noah sent out 2 different kinds of birds from the Ark. What were they?
A. Raven and Dove

9/26/2015
Who were the parents of Cain and Abel?
A. Adam and Eve

9/19/2015
How many brothers did Joseph have?
A. 11. He also had 1 sister.







7. Q. Who did Boaz marry?
A. Ruth
8. Q. Abraham traveled with his nephew. What was his nephew's name?
A. Lot
9. Q. What was the name of Joseph's baby brother?
A. Benjamin
10. Q. Who found baby Moses in the river?
A. Pharaoh's daughter
11. Q. What was the name of the mountain where Moses was given the 10 Commandments?
A. Mt. Sinai
12. Q. When Lot's wife turned around and looked at the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, what did she turn into?
A. A pillar of salt
13. Q. What were Gideon's weapons when he fought the Midianites?
A. Trumpets, pitchers and lamps.
14. Q. What did King Solomon ask God to give him?
A. Wisdom
15. Q. What river was Jesus baptized in?
A. Jordan River
16. Q. What was the first miracle of Jesus recorded in the Bible?
A. Turning the water into wine.
17. Q. What kind of work did Zacchaeus do?
A. Tax collector
18. Q. When Jesus was on the Mount of Transfiguration, who were the Old Testament men who appeared with Him?
A. Moses and Elijah
19. Q. Who was in prison with Paul in Philippi when they were singing and there was an earthquake?
A. Silas
The next question is my all-time favorite question to ask children in a Bible quiz.
20. Q. How many of each animal did Moses bring into the Ark?
A. None. Moses led the people of Israel out of Egypt. It was Noah who was on the Ark.

9/12/2015
The Bible contains how many books?
A. 12
B. 40
C. 66
D. 144

9/5/2015
The woman at the well had how many husbands?
A. 0
B. 1
C. 3
D. 5. <<< John 4:18

8/29/2015
David's best friend?

8/15/2015
What is the home town of the apostle Paul?
A. Antioch
B. Tarsus. <<< Acts 9
C. Lystra
D. Damascus


8/7/2015
1.) Jesus walked on what body of water?
A. Caspian Sea
B. Sea of Galilee
C. Dead Sea
D. Mediterranean Sea

8/1/2015
1.) Where was Jesus crucified?
The Mount of Olives
Golgotha << Mt 27
Jerusalem
The Hinnom Valley

7/25/2015
Which apostle was a Roman citizen?
Peter
Paul <<<<
Thaddaeus
Matthew

7/18/2015
How old was Isaac when he married Rebekah?
A. Twenty
B. Forty. <<< gen. 25:20
C. Sixty
D. Eighty

7/11/2015
Who was the high priest at the time of Jesus arrest?
A. Caiaphas <<< john 18:28
B. Ananias
C. Pilate
D. Zechariah

6/27/2015
Where was Jesus when he was arrested?
A. The temple
B. A garden <<< Matt 26:36
C. The upper room
D. A courtyard

7/4/2015
Who were the sole survivors of Jericho destruction?
A. Rahab and her family <<< Josh 6:23

6/20/2015
Who was David's father?
A. Solomon
B. Jesse.  <<< Ruth 4:22
C. Isaac
D. Joseph

6/13/2015
Which tribe was nearly exterminated by the 11 other tribes?
A. Tribe of Benjamin. See judges 2015

6/6/2015
Who pretended to be insane and drooled on his beard?
A. Paul
B. Peter
C. David <<< 1Sam 21
D. John

5/30/2015
King Solomon said which was the mightiest beast?
A. Elephant
B. Lion <<<< Pr 30:30
C. Bear
D. Ox


5/23/2015
Lazarus was dead in the tomb how days when Jesus arrived?
A. 1
B. 3
C. 4 <<<< john 11
D. 7

2015
Proverbs says four things are little and wise. Ants, Conies, Locusts and ______ ?
A. Birds
B. Snakes
C. Lizards
D. Mice

5/16/2015
How many people entered Noah's ark?
A. 2
B. 6
C. 8 <<<< gen 7:13
D. 12

5/9/2015
What mother brought her son a coat every year?
A. Hannah <<< 1sam 2
B. Ruth
C. Mary
D. Sarah

5/2/2015
Whose mother was paid to be his nurse?
A. Jesus
B. Moses <<<< Ex 2:9
C. John the Baptist
D. Samuel

4/24/2015
Who was mother of John the Baptist?
A. Sarah
B. Elizabeth <<< Luke 1
C. Mary
D. Rebecca


4/17/2015
Name of Bob's dog?

4/11/2015
Isaac's child Jacob had how many sons?
A. 2
B. 7
C. 12 <<<< Gen 35
D. 40

4/3/2015
Who was the first woman to speak with the resurrected Jesus?
Ans. Mary Magdalene  <<<< John 20

3/14/2015
Years it took Solomon to build Gods temple?
A. 3
B. 7 <<<< 1 kings 6
C. 13
D. 20

3/21/2015 & 28
Who did NOT cross the Jordan on dry land?
A. Moses. <<<<< Joshua
B. Elijah.  2 kings 2
C. Elisha
D. Joshua.



2/28/2015
In Acts 8 who baptized the Ethiopian eunuch?
Ans. Philip <<<< acts 8

2/21/2015
Name of Ananias wife?
A. Sapphira <<<<< Acts 5:1

2/72015
Who was Samuels Mom?
A. Hannah <<< 1sam 1
B. Sarah
C. Rebekah
D. Peninnah



1/31/2015
John the Baptist was known for eating what two items?
A. Locust and wild honey.  Mk 1:6

1/24/2015
Who was the only female Judge in the bible?
A. Sarah
B. Rahab
C. Deborah <<<<
D. Esther

1 /17/2015
Name of Moses Dad?
Ans. Amram. Ex 6:20

1/10/2015
How many Judges ruled in Bible times?
A. 7
B. 12
C. 15 <<<
D. 40

1/3/2015
What do Othniel, Ehud, Shamgar have in common?
A. Cities
B. Kings
C. Judges<<<<<
D. Mountains

12/20/2014
John the Baptist was how much older than Jesus?
A. 6 months. See Luke 1


12/13/2014
Name of the angel who spoke with the Virgin Mary ?
A. Gabriel


12/5/2014
Philistines captured the ark of the covenant from the Israel for how long?
How long did the Philistines possess the Ark of the Covenant ?
A. 7 days
B. 7 weeks
C. 7 months <<<<<< 1sam 6
D. 7 years

11/29/2014
Which prophet was thrown in a cistern?
A. Jeremiah <<<<<
B. Elijah
C. Joseph
D. Daniel

11/22/2014
How many days did Israelites March around Jericho ?
A. 7

11/15/2014
How many loaves were used to feed the 4000?
A. 3
B. 7 <<< Matt 16, Mk 8
C. 12
D. 40

11/8/2014
When did the supply of manna stop?
A. See Joshua 5

11/2/2014
What do the 12 stones from the Jordan River mean?
A. Walked on dry land. Joshua 4


Book signing
What is the name of Bob's dog?
A. Blue

10/25/2014
Joshua had how many stones removed from the Jordan river?
A. 12

10/18/2014
Who was the assistant of Moses for 40 years?
A. Joshua


10/11/2014
Who wrote the book of Ecclesiastes ?
A. King Solomon

10/1/2014
Moses died on what mountain ?
A. Mt Nebo
B. Mt Sinai
C. Mt Gerizim
D. Mt Zalmon

9/27/14
The servant with 5 talents increased them by:
A. 10
B. 5
C. 2
D. None

9/20/2014
How many children did Hosea and Gomer have?
Ans. 3

9/13/2014
Name of Hosea's wife?
Ans. Gomer

9/6/2014
Name of the first minor prophet
Ans. Hosea

8/30/2014
The bible has how many minor prophets
Ans. 12

8/23/2014
Being a minor prophet means:
A. Introductory writings
B. Wrote Psalms with minor chords
C. Not famous writer
D. Writings were brief


7/26/2014
Prov 3:14 For wisdom is more profitable than silver,
and her wages are better than gold.


7/19/2014
Which is not a book in the bible?
A. Amos
B. Hagar
C. Nahum
D. Joel


7/5/2014 & 7/12/2014
Paul belonged to which tribe?
A. Judah
B. Levi
C. Benjamin
D. Reuben

6/21/2014
I can do all things ________   _________ who strengthens me.

6/14/2014
Paul warned readers to look out for what animal in Philippians 3?
A. Wolves
B. Snakes
C. Dogs
D. Leaches

6/7/2014
Epaphroditus was whose good friend?
<<<< Paul. Phil 2


5/31/2014
What is the correct order of creation?
A. Galaxy, sun,moon,earth
B. Sun,moon,earth,galaxy
C. Earth,sun,moon,galaxy <<< gen 1:10,16
D. Earth,galaxy,moon,sun

5/24/2014
Who was Lot's father?
A. Abram
B. Jacob
C. Haran <<<< gen 11
D. Laban

5/17/2014
Joseph was sold for what?
A. Food and drink
B. Precious jewels
C. Seven lambs
D. 20 pieces of silver<<<


5/10/2014
What king ate grass. ?

5/3/2014
What was the occasion for Jesus turning water into wine?
A. Wedding
B. Funeral
C. Passover
D. Bar mitzvah


4/26/2014
Jesus walked on what body of water?
A. Caspian Sea
B. Dead Sea
C. Mediterranean Sea
D. Sea of Galilee <<< Jn 6

4/19/2014
Who did Jesus not take with him to pray in Gethsemane?
A. Peter
B. James.
C. John
D. Matthew <<< Matt 26

4/12/2014
Who poured perfume on Jesus feet?
Mary << Jn 12:3
Martha
Naomi
Elizabeth

4/5/2014
What position did Herod hold?
Prophet
King
Priest
Chief priest

3/29/2014
What was the name of Hosea's wife?
Gomer   Hosea 1

3/22/2014
Who asked God to bless and enlarge his territory?
A. Job
B. Jabez     <<<< 1chr 4:10
C. Jeremiah
D. Isaiah

3/15/2014
How far was the walk from Jerusalem to Jericho?
A. 7 miles
B. 17 miles <<<<
C. 51 miles
D. 87 miles

3/8/2014
Who did Mordecai tell about death plot? Esther 2
A. Guard
B. Chamberlain
C. Cupbearer
D. Queen <<<<

3/1/2014
How many stones did David use to kill Goliath ?  1 Sam 17
A. 7
B. 5
C. 3
D. 1. <<<

2/22/2014
Name of king Sauls wife? 1 Sam 14
Ahinoam <<<
Michal
Bathsheba
Zonal


2/15/2014
Elisha used what to purify poisoned stew? Flour 2kings 4
A. Oil
B. Flour
C. Fig leaves
D. Wood

2/8/2014
Who was older?
Cain or Abel
Gen 4

2/1/2014
Elisha purified stew that was poisoned by? 2 kings 4  Gourds
       Wild mushrooms
       Wild gourds
       Arsenic
       Bad cheese

1/25/2014
Where was Abraham born? Ur
A. Canaan
B. Egypt
C. Ur
D. Uz


1/18/2014
Name of David's best friend?  Jonathan

1/11/2014
Name of man who carried Jesus' cross?  Mk 15 simon of Cyrene
A. Nicodemus
B. Reuben
C. Simon
D. Thaddeus

1/4/2013
Who was a faster runner?
Peter or John.   See Jn 20


????/2013
How old was Abraham when Hagars son was born?
A. 86
B. 94
C. 100
D. 106

12/21/2013
Another name for the "city of David"?

12/14/2013
Angel who announced Jesus birth?

12/7/2013
How was Jesus related to John the Baptist?
A. Brother
B. Cousin
C. Uncle
D. Nephew

11/30/2013
Name of Hagar's son?
A. Jacob
B. Ishmael
C. Isaac
D. Abram


11/23/2013
Jesus was baptized by John in what river?
A. Mississippi
B. Nile
C. Euphrates
D. Jordan

11/16/2013
God commanded Adam not to eat from which tree?
       Life
       Apple
       Sycamore
       The knowledge of good and evil.


11/9/2013
Which title is not a book in the bible?
Obadiah or Hezekiah or Joel or James

11/2/2013
What was the first animal to get out of Noah's ark?
Raven. Gen 8:7

10/26/2013
Moses received the commandments on what mountain?


10/19/2013
Name the first five books of the bible in order.
Genesis. Deut. Joshua.

10/12/2013
Which animal did God allow to speak ?  See num 22
A. Ox
B.  Horse
C. Donkey
D. Camel

10/5/2013
Korah was member of which tribe?  Hint: numbers 16
A. Levi
B. Judah
C. Reuben
D. Benjamin


9/28/2013
What woman betrayed Samson?  Delilah

9/21/2013
When did God first bless us and choose us?  Before He made the world. Eph 1:4

9/7/2013
Which book contains the "floating ax" story?  Hint: Elisha   2 kings

8/31/2013
God added 15 years what man's life? Hezekiah. Isaiah  38


8/24/2013
How often did the year jubilee occur?  50 yrs

8/17/2013
What the apostle Peter married?  Yes Mt 8:14

8/10/2013
Who was older .. Moses or Aaron?  See Ex 7:7

8/3/2013
Name of Jacob's youngest son?   Benjamin

7/27/2013
How was Lot related to Abraham?
A. Son
B. nephew
C. Brother in law
D. Cousin

7/20/2013
Who was Abraham asked to sacrifice? Son Isaac

7/13/2013
Whose wife was turned into a pillar of salt?  Lot's wife. Gen 19


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6/21/2012
John wrote rev from what island?

7-7-2012
How many seals were used on the scroll in Revelations?

7-14-2012
How many beasts rose out of the earth and sea in Revelations?

7-21-2012
How many bowls of wrath were poured out in Revelations?

8-4-2012
What book is mentioned in revelations that we want our name to be in?

8-11-2012
Luke says that a man speaks from an overflow of his __________?
A. Wealth
B. heart
C.  Mind
D.  Eyes

8-18-2012
James compares tongue to what part of ship?

8-25-2012
Jesus said evil thoughts come from what part of the body?  Heart

9-1-2012
Which Apostle wrote to Timothy from a prison?   Paul

9-8-2012
What happened to the lame beggar at the Beautiful Gate?   He was healed by Peter

9-15-2012
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
Loving one another covers how many sins?  A. Seven times seven.   B. 40.  C.  70 x 7.  D     Multitude     1 Peter 4 : 8

9-22-2012
What was the new commandment Jesus gave us?
Love one another   John 13:34

Who was Melchizedek?
A.  Emperor of Rome
B.  an Apostle
C.  Friend of Abraham
D.  Tax collector

9-29-2012
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.  1 thes 5:14

10-6-2012
Who used "So What" pills to illustrate content of Eph 4:2?

10-13-12
Who called his house 'a house of prayer'?  Mt 21:13

10-20-2012
Who had a pure prayer life yet lost his family and possessions?,

10-27-2012
What is the last book of the OT?  Malachi.  Hint: my messenger

11-3-2012
Was Haggai a man or woman?   Man

11-10-2012
According to Jesus what percentage of seeds grow strong?  25% mt 13

11-24-2012
The famous 3:16 verse is from what gospel?  John

12-1-2012
The heavens declare what about God?  Ps 19

12-8-2012
Can you name the following Bible translations?  NIV, NLT, NASB, ESV, KJV

12-22-2012
 Jason Strand focused on which word from Jn 3:16?  Whoever

12-15-2012
Who were the first people to visit at the manger?  Shepherds


01-05-2013
Was it a boy or girl who had loaves and fish to feed the 5000?  Jn 6:9

01-12-2013
Who did Eve blame for eating the apple?   Gen 3:13. Serpent

01-19-2013
Which 3 items were in the ark of the covenant ?
A. Manna
B. Straw
C. Tablets
D. A staff

01-26-2013
How many times did Peter deny knowing Jesus? Jn 18
Three

02-02-2013
The chief theme of Philippians is:
A. Obey the law
B.  Death
C. Encouragement
D. Living sacrifices


02-09-2013
King Solomon had how many wives?
A. 1
B. 12
C. 300
D. 700
Hint: 1 kings 11

02-16-2013
Who spoke to The Lord when the sun and moon stopped in the sky?  Josh 10
A. Joshua
B. Moses
C. Elijah
D. Abraham

.????
How many years was the lame man in Bethesda sick?  38 yrs. John 5

02-23-2013
Who baptized the Ethiopian eunuch by the road?
A. Peter
B. Paul
C. Philip
D. John

03-02-2013
How many candles were on the lampstand next to the tabernacle?
A. 12
B. 9
C. 7
D. 6

3-9-2013
Who was older, Cain or Abel?

3-16-2013
How old was Noah when it started raining?    Hint: within 100 yrs

3-23-2013
David gave what three items to everyone in Israel ? Hint.  1 chronicles 16

3-30-2013
What was the crime of the two men crucified with Jesus?
Robbery. They were thieves. Mt 27

4-6-2013
Who were the first women to see the risen Jesus?

4-13-2013
What do the following have common?  sheep, water, valley, dung, fish, horse
Names of gates around Jerusalem

4-20-2013
Who was chosen to replace Judas as one of twelve disciples?   Matthias

4-27-2013
Who was the only non-Jewish author of the New Testament ?   Luke

5-3-2013
Who fell out of a window while Paul was preaching?    Hint.  Read Acts 20
A. Samos
B.  Mitylene
C. Eutychus
D.  Assos
E. Miletus

5-10-2013
Did Noah have the Ark of the Covenant on his animal ark?
Yes or No

5-18-2013
What footwear was Moses wearing when he saw the burning bush?
A. Sandals
B. leather boots
C.  Stockings
D. Bambu clogs

5-25-2013
How old was Moses when he asked pharaoh to set the Israelites free?
A. 60s
B. 70s
C. 80s
D. 90s
Exodus 7

6-1-2013
What do the following have in common?
Gnats, Flies, Blood, Frogs

6-8-2013
Which apostle wrote the book of Romans?  Paul

6-15-2013
Paul referred to what drink when writing to new Christ followers?
A. Water
B. milk
C. Wine
D. Coffee

6-22-2013
How many tablets were used to record the Ten Commandments ?  ( the second time)
2.   Exodus 34

6-29-2013
What much was used to build the tabernacle ?
A. 100 ephads
B. 40 shekel
C. 1 Ton
D. 7 cubits

7-1-2013
How old was Abraham when Isaac was born?  Gen 21.  100

Saturday, February 6, 2016

Part of Gods story

Quote from Rob Ketterling's book Thrill Sequence touched a cord for me today. Definitely my favorite chapter (aka chap 9). We need to surrender to His plans.

> Your life isn't the story, it's part of the story God is writing. We are characters in His book, not the author of our own.


Hope the weekend is going well for you!

Thanks -Nar

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Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Day 5 of your Bible Plan, UNCOMMEN Husbands


Just wanted to give a shout out to the YouVersion Bible study I am doing.  Hats off to http://youversion.com for their rich offering of study plans.

This particular study has had a plethora of nuggets for husbands/Dads.  It has left me encouraged.

Thanks... -Nar



UNCOMMEN Husbands

Day 5 of 5

"Best Thing a Dad Can Do for His Kids"
You've probably heard these words DECLARED before: We Hold These Truths to be Self-Evident… In other words, everything that comes next doesn't have to be proven, it's just fact. We know from observing those around us. We know from our gut. Some things are just true.
So it is with the following statement, "The Most Important Thing a Dad Can Do…"
How would you fill in that blank? Check out responses on my Facebook post, and even offer your own thoughts. Many were expected truths: "be present, honest, forgiving, loving, etc." But a few people read my mind:
The Best Thing a Dad Can Do is Love His Wife Well. (Be a loving husband!)
That's it. It's not rocket science. It's self-evident. Kids are a direct beneficiary of the love shown between a man and a woman. Men cannot spend time, listen, forgive, model, say, or display anything if they are not there, and the only way to truly "be there" is to do everything in their power to protect the stability of their family.
I could throw out stats on the direct correlation between the stability of the family and the effects on children. Social sciences prove this concept ten times over, but the true test comes from your own experience. Think about your own life. How did your dad love your mom and what affect did that have on you?
You and I both know, "do what I say, not as I do?" doesn't really work. Kids do what we do. So it begs the tough question, "What kind of man am I modeling?" Solomon said in Proverbs, "Let them (my instructions) not escape from your sight;" (4:21) and "my son...let your eyes observe my ways" (23:26).
I want my kids to adore their spouses one day. Am I adoring my wife? Do I hold her hand, kiss her, and laugh with her in front of my kids?
I want my kids to resolve conflict quickly. Am I holding grudges, shouting constantly, or pursuing peace with my wife?
I want my kids to own their mistakes. Do they see me apologizing sincerely?
I want my kids to serve their spouses one day. Do I serve my wife in practical and tangible ways?
Someone once said, "Become who you want your kids to be." If you dream about your kids loving one person well for a lifetime, it starts with you. It almost goes without saying, that's the best thing you can do for your kids.
Be UNCOMMEN.
Proverbs 4:20-21 Proverbs 23:26

Proverbs 4:20-21 ESV

20 My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. 21 Let them not escape from your sight;

Proverbs 23:26 ESV

26 My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe my ways.



Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Book Review - Crucial Conversations


Crucial Conversations
by Patterson, Grenny McMillan, Switzler


I was browsing through the book Crucial Conversations by a group of researchers and noticed the following quote "Speak while in anger and you'll give the best speech that you will ever regret." The authors had me, I was intrigued wondering what these guys had to say about this common trap of speaking out of emotion. It turns out that the researchers of Crucial Conversations were originally studying why certain people were more effective than others. Thousands of interviews brought them to the topic of how to best deal with a crucial conversation which by definition has the potential of changing the course of your life. This book gives its readers tools for dealing with the Fool's Choice which says I must choose between telling the truth and keeping a friend or choosing between candor and kindness.

Crucial Conversations is a book of dialog tools which can help each of us navigate those hard conversations which we typically prefer to avoid. The beginning chapter of Start With Heart will quickly draw you into familiar ground and leaves you with hope that you can learn some of these communication techniques. 
Pool of meaning is a term used in Crucial Conversations to capture the concept of contributing to the true meaning or common ground of the conversation. Asing the defining question of the 'What do I want?' helps bring focus to a dialog.  Losing focus can result in a change of motive such as just winning the argument versus the original topic.

The chapters of this book contain many practical real life stories which help to make Crucial Conversations an interesting read. Given how common it is for conversations to get blown out of proportion it is a good bet that all readers will glean useful nuggets from this book.

One chapter titled "How to Speak Persuasively Not Abrasively" uses the following word reminder for teaching some principles to follow.
STATE - Share you facts, Tell your story, Ask for other paths, Talk tentatively, Encouraging Talk

Another chapter called 'How to Listen When Others Blow Up' used AMPP.
AMPP - Ask, Mirror, Paraphase, Prime

All chapters contained helpful and insightful concepts but I thought chapter 5 "Make It Safe" was probably required reading for all married couples and business leaders. Working on making my our conversations a safe place to share hurts and concerns is the cornerstone of Crucial Conversations.